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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't like this kind of thing because it is akin  taking credit for something you didn't do.
The previous post about how proud the daughter was to drop off the diapers? The daughter simply collected diapers other people gave. As in, [b]they did the work and sacrifice and all she had to do was deliver. [/b]
Same with this party- you get a bunch of little kids to do something for you that you will get to "present" and feel great about. Huh?
A real sacrifice would be to skip the party and use the funds you were going to spend on food and cake to buy an equal amount of food for the shelter and use the Party time to buy it, load the car and take it over there.
Not instruct a bunch of kids to do 3/4 of the task for you.
Big NO from me [/quote]

Um...Couldn't this same logic (in bold) could apply to every toddler school art project? Or, more similarly, charitable drives held by school PTAs?

At the end of the day, good causes get supplies they need. If you don't agree with the cause or have issue with someone "taking credit" for your work, you have choices:  don't go to the party, or don't make a donation. The intention/motivation behind requesting these donations seems to be good, so...what's the problem? (Then again, I work for a nonprofit, so perhaps my view on this topic is "softer" than most)

At the very least, from a convenience standpoint, it's a heck of a lot easier for me to buy canned goods/diapers (that are more likely to go to good use) than a toy that may or may not. The OP isn't asking people to go out of their way to buy something. 
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The intention isn't really good though. It's mostly based on OP not wanting to deal with 30 toys so she's trying [b]to find a workaround that makes her look good[/b]. It doesn't really matter to me if the intention IS good- it really sets a weird tone, for me, of [b]the parent of the party trying to make some personal statement about how giving her family is [/b]and make others donate to charity using her kid's party as a front. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth, sorry.[/quote]

Ok, now I get it.

Your cynicism is showing.

Some of us don't care about whether we "look good" to other parents, and we have no interest in making a "personal statement" about anything.

And even if we did, we'd recognize that collecting a few bags of dog food or packs of diapers isn't going to win us any awards in the charity department.

Here's what else we know: our kids don't need more presents from their friends, in addition to what the grandparents, uncles etc. get them.  But some parents don't like to send their kids to a party empty-handed.  So they can bring a few cans of cat food if they want to.  Or not.

Again, nobody expects any admiration or approval here.  Again, we're talking about cat food.  Or diapers.  Or a can for the food cupboard.  This is not exactly Nobel Peace Prize kind of stuff.[/quote]

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