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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm fat.   I do a lot of volunteer work.  I have mom friends at school.  Not super-close mom friends, but ones I enjoy chatting with at school functions or playdates.  I think volunteering does help a lot.  I'm an introvert and don't generally reach out, so volunteering makes me get out there and actually talk to people.  I find there are cliques, but they are mostly because that's who the parents met first and who they feel comfortable with.  Not necessarily because they are trying to exclude others.

And I also find a big variety in personalities, from the Maine, New Englander type mom who doesn't care about uber fashion like you are talking about, to the corporate lawyer who works all the time and is always in a suit, to the outdoor hiker mom, to the generic suburban mom.   I think once you can break into a group and chat, you'll find a lot of difference, and that helps you find someone to click with.[/quote]

I agree with this poster about there most likely being more variety among those you think are alike. I am actually in amazing shape, have never been fat and has a very hard time breaking into the social scene at our kids private school. I thought maybe some of the other women didn't like me because they were jealous! haha! I found volunteering to be an amazing way to break the ice. I started small and have worked into larger commitments. Now I feel very comfortable with how things are socially at the school, sure not everyone is a friend but I know lots of people and have even made some mom friends to get coffee/dinner with sometimes. Hang in there OP! Give it time and be patient with yourself and others. Also be sure to remind yourself that this is just your child's school, not yours all over again. Spend lots of time with your "real" friends and have a good laugh at some of the behaviors if warranted! [/quote]

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