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[quote=Anonymous]11:59 again. This post might just be the right place for this: I'd like to report a hugging foul.

I hugged a client recently because he just needed a damn hug- had gone though an online catfishing scenario-he's gay, having a hard time finding love,  and I could listen and support, but really couldn't take away that sad feeling, so without any prompting from him, I gave him a hug. I am a nurse, and one of the perks/downfalls is that it kind of is your job to give hugs when needed... some people have no social circle or family support... but I rarely do 'professional hugs'  and there are reasons for this. It has BITTEN ME IN THE ASS.

Now every time I see him, he ends the session with ..."Whelllllp...." arms extended to give/receive a hug. He's a really nice guy and I enjoy him but it is just way too many hugs for me. ugghhhh how does one pull back from hugging? So now I make it a point to pick up and hold something or walk ahead of him. He faked me out the other day, though... I held a chart in my arms and as he was leaving, he wasn't going for a hug, so I turned away, placing it down and that's when he pivoted and came in for the hug. Eff me.

After telling DH about clients like this, he now does impressions of some of the worst hugs I've ever gotten, including the old man who always says out loud "I am hugging you" in a LOUD Ron Burgundy voice. Every. Time-He hugs one of the staff. Also the wimpy "can I have a hug...?" weasely guy or lady (dont' want to do it/their hugs suck).

Even a Dr with whom I work... I was saying happy new year, and staff were hugging and I went to hug him and he held me in the longest stiffest embrace, taking a 6 count of the longes inhalation and expiration ever... like a relaxation technique... to the point that it seemed dutiful.... like it was bad for him too.... the next week and several times since he has bought me books on hugging. Yes they exist. "He's judging YOUR hugs!" DH told me "you think you are good- maybe he thought YOU sucked!" No, I have since learned that "hugging is  undervalued" and he apparently wants us to hug more. It's like working at Walmart for the morning chant/doctrine repetition. Except huggier.

OMG I notice a theme. I either turn people into huggers (against my will) or my hugs unleash their inner hugger.

You can understand my dilemma- maybe I need to find a new job![/quote]

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