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[quote=Anonymous]Just my perspective as the working husband with a SAHM wife.  Kids are 8 and 5 and wife hasn't worked since youngest was born.

It works really well for us, but partly because my wife does almost all domestic tasks.  Sure, I help with dishes and bath and bedtime when I get home, trash, stuff on weekends.  But all other domestic responsibilities are hers, from meals, to groceries, to doctors appointments, Christmas gifts and cards.  She is really good and organized.  By the end of the day, after the kids are in bed, we both relax together.

The reason this works, we are both working hard.  If I had the perception that I was busting my chops at work for 9 hours and still had to do a chunk of domestic duties, I would be resentful.  Caveat - when the children are really young like OPs its harder to get stuff done (both ours are in school now).

Agree with previous posters, you need to talk.  And I am not implying that you aren't pulling your weight, but if you are SAH you need to accept the domestic is your role.  If not, you need to get a job outside the home.  On a related note, the generic advice is also: how's your sex life?[/quote]

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