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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure what you mean by difficult childhood, i had parents that were emotionally absent. I don't actually remember my father giving me even a hug. They are damaged, clueless people but i still feel some compassion for them. [b]Financially, i have not seen a dime from them since high school, not a dime for college or a loan for grad school. They never considered stretching or jeopardizing their financial health for my sake.[/b] The time has not come, but i know when it does my brother and SIL will not step to the plate, and i am contemplating what would i be willling to do? I have made peace with their bad parenting, but their stinginess no, can't get over it. So i have no answer for you OP, but there are many of debating what do we really owe our parents? Even bad parents have cared for us in some capacity.[/quote]
This dynamic is puzzling to me. When people expect the world from their parents (in the material sense), no one on DCUM bats an eye. It is the norm. When it comes to supporting elderly parents in return, it is suddenly selfish of the parents to even hope for attention from their children. [/quote]

Actually I find that most adult children respond to their parents in kind. Loving and generous parents most often get treated with love and generosity. And even not so loving and generous parents get treated with dignity and receive some level of financial support when it's necessary. Adult children often have the burden of supporting themselves, their children and their parents.

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