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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what exactly is your problem, OP?
Would you rather she didn't congratulate you or seem indifferent?
You honestly come off as pretentious.
Like you want so badly to be above  social norms and this engagement is upsetting your  rebellion against society.

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I guess I just felt like *I* should feel that excited. But, this thread has been very good and cathartic for me. I get exactly why things have gone the way they have, and it has nothing to do with rebellion. My (chosen) narrative would have gone very much by "societal norms", [b]but I knew the choices I was making that they didn't were the right ones. So, I apparently rebelled out of default.. And maybe in a weird way, that was a blessing. [/b]

And I don't mean to sound pretentious... I was just really confused as this wasn't something I expected and it was a really ambivalent feeling I had. I'd set my sails by the life I had known to come to expect. Who doesn't feel a little thrown off by a plot twist? [/quote]

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Based on this and your other replies you just want to be a snowflake. Not so different from the bridezillas you claim to hate.

Either that or you are actually scared that something in your perfectly crafted  relationship  might change, so being pretentious and snowflakey is really just your way of coping with fear.[/quote]

Oh please, it is totally normal to wonder why you are not excited about your wedding as you are supposed to be. [/quote]

She's not wondering about that. She wants validation that nothing will change and that  she has been married all along. Look at her replies, they have  zero to do with pondering her feelings. Zero.

My opinion? She's not excited because she's scared something will change for them or   she doesn't love her fiance  like she thinks she does.[/quote]

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