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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I kept my name.  At the time, I felt very strongly about it.  I've been married almost 20 years now and honestly, OP, this is not the hill to die on.

I don't correct anyone. Fyi, when you have kids, their adorable little friends will call you Mrs. DHLastName and assuming your kid has your DH's last name, their parents will be calling you Larla DHLastName because of your kid's last name.

It's all fine.  My kids are now tweens and by this age, the parents and kids have figured it out!  [/quote]

+1,000 to this post.

Married 23 years, kept my name, but am happy to answer to "Mrs. HusbandName" if called it by anyone, unless that anyone is a person who is handling a business transaction with me. Husband's family, fortunately, has always used my name and not called me "Mrs. HusbandName."

I know that it's family members who are not using your name right, OP, but you mention that these family members are "cousins and grandparents." Certainly with grandparents, I would cut them slack as a generation that is so reflexively used to women changing surnames at marriage that they might never really remember consistently that you use another name. Just not worth worrying over or letting it affect how you think about these relatives. I'd let your husband, not you, correct them once and gently, and then just leave it.

OP, if you and DH don't have kids yet, you might find you just end up just smiling about this rather than correcting because you'd spend your child's entire school life correcting your child's friends and their parents and some teachers as well. I don't mind being called by my husband's last name especially as it's our daughter's name as well--after so long, I find it rather sweet somehow when I'm called that and I don't correct people.[/quote]

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