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[quote=Anonymous]I have experience in this area, my inlaws have dysfunctional communication. It took me many years to figure out what works.  I spent many stressed out years thinking that if we just talked it out, all would be better.  That was never the case with my mil, talking to her was like navigating a minefield and always ended very very badly- usually with her in tears, and pages of emails.

What worked for me was this: engage only superficially. If they start saying crazy stuff, just ignore.  If there are specific things that cross the line for you, bring it up in the moment, but very simply, as a request. It's important not to over explain or explain at all, and instead make very clear simple requests.  Stay out of family drama. As hard as it may be, just let most bothersome comments roll off your back. Feel free to address them in the moment with a simple response that tells her she crossed a line for you.

Our relationship is virtually conflict free now, a complete 180 from a few years ago. [/quote]

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