I just had a thought. The General thread is for birth to preschool. Older kids is elementary school. This is tweens and teens. So the PPs who think 8 and 9 year olds are tweens think that older kids refers to just (maybe 5) 6 and 7 year olds?

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Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

What about pp's 9 yo in full-on puberty? I imagine she looked quite a bit like a 10-12 yo. You can't generalize-there is a huge range of normal development at this age.

I got my period at 9 and wearing a bra at 8. The difference, at least to me, is the attitude and self-esteem. A child who is developing early *needs* a bra to support and feel better about herself, especially for gym class and recess. OPs daughter already has an over-the-head bra, she doesn't need anything more sophisticated, and she isn't developing.

A previous PP said something about celebrating growing up (or maybe it was in the thread about make up for an 11 year old?). I'm not in a hurry to make kids grow up faster, but I support, encourage and celebrate the milestones as they come. To me, getting the first bra is a rite of passage, something a girl does when she needs it. The same thing goes for the first period, the first time talking about a boy and all the other things that come with growing up. The more that children are encouraged to be who they are now, the less self-esteem issues they are. I don't advocate infantilizing a child, but I also don't advocate encouraging a child to grow up too soon.

By the way, at 9 years old I looked like I was 16. But mentally and emotionally I was still 9. There's no way that I would have wanted to make myself look older, I had enough issues with unwanted attention as it was. On the other hand, my younger sister watched what I went through and didn't wear a bra until she was 15. Our mother offered at 12 or 13, I think, even though she didn't need it, but she didn't want to draw attention either.

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Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

What about pp's 9 yo in full-on puberty? I imagine she looked quite a bit like a 10-12 yo. You can't generalize-there is a huge range of normal development at this age.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

I am still waiting to hear why an over-the-head bra is fine for an 8-year-old with no development but a back-closure bra for an 8-year-old with no development is not only unacceptable but the first step on the road to juvenile delinquency. Those little hooks must be awfully powerful.

My DD got her period at 9. I certainly consider 8 and 9 yo tweens. She needed a bra at 8.

I don't see the issue with buying one if OPs DD wants to wear one. Seconding the suggestion for Justice.

Ubykotex TWEEN range designed for girls aged 8 upwards.

http://courseweb.lis.illinois.edu/~crowley8/506tweens/Tween_Programming/Home.html

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

My daughter is 11 and totally does not need a bra. That said, I got her a couple of those Hanes-type sports-bra like bras to wear under a couple of tips she has that are thin and/or light colored. She has started wearing them all the time because many of her friends wear/need bras. I just wanted her to feel comfortable and gave her the option to wear something under her clothes if she wanted.

There is no harm in getting something like that for a 9 year old if she wants it...?!?! Not sure why this is even a question. It's not like she's asking for strapless padded push-up from Victoria's Secret.