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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is furious because he has asked his mom in the past not to do this and [b]he thinks it is disrespectful to the two of us[/b].  On the holidays when we do have his dd , they don't invite the ex, or at least haven't up to now, but I can't help but feel slighted in this situation.  MIL doesn't seem to respect DH's wishes.  I know children should come first, but this dynamic is very uncomfortable.[/quote]

I agree that you and your husband need to grow up.  You do not get to control who other people invite when you aren't there.  Your in-laws are being VERY respectful.  The do not invite the ex-wife when you will be there.  But they do invite their granddaughter to their house when you aren't there.  That's about as respectful as it can be.  What you are asking is that they exclude their granddaughter for holidays when you aren't even going to be there.  What would you do it every other year, if someone else besides you got to decide when your children got to see their grandparents and had veto rights for when your grandchildren could spend holidays with their grandparents.  Would you think that was okay?

Frankly, you and your husband are acting like teenagers.  Learn some manners and be more polite.  You have absolutely no say in what the family does when you are not there.   You don't even get to make such demands when you are there, but you can make requests.  Their house, their family, they don't have to accede to those requests, but they can consider them.  The fact that your in-laws are respectful enough to only do this when you aren't scheduled to be there is pretty laudable.  I'm also sorry for your children that you are so sophmoric that they probably don't get to celebrate many holidays with their sister.[/quote]

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