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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been overweight since I've had my son (4 years ago) and haven't been [b]unable to shake the weight off[/b]. I know I'm overweight but have [b]struggled with loosing it[/b]. Just to hear the words from my husbands mouth cut me to the core...Then he gets mad at me for being upset. He says "you call yourself fat how is that different if I say it" But it's not the same. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?[/quote]

You don't shake weight off and yes losing it is a struggle, but it ain't brain surgery.  He's probably more upset with the fact that you have not tried to lose the weight than the weight itself.  Its a bit like a husband who has been unemployed for four years, but won't get off his couch to look for a job.  Its not the immediate unemployment [i]per se[/i] that frustrates the wife, but instead the fact that he is unwilling to do anything about it.

"Gosh, my wife called me lazy last week.  I mean, I've struggled to look for a job ..." blah blah blah.  Sorry to sound mean, but here's an idea.  Get off the computer and go for a power walk.  "But I can't leave junior alone ..."?  Try aerobics at home.  Heck, you should have seen my Mom doing Jack LaLanne in the 70s. 
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+1 I think this is a perfect analogy.

It's not reasonable to expect your spouse to accept a major change in your employment or your fitness status unless you become ill or endure some other major tragedy. But if it's just normal life hassles... you kind of owe it to your spouse (and him/her to you) to bring your A game to the relationship.

I have seen several moms on Facebook have a lot of success with those beach body challenge groups (i might be getting the name slightly wrong). Maybe worth a look? 
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