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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents can push all they want for Ivy. Its a scam. Both DH and I are entrepreneurs and that is a mindset that wins every time. It can even win without a degree.

My son is the ONLY child mowing lawns. He is 15 and next spring his first car will be a pickup to trailer his equipment. He has 1 kid he pays on his busiest days to help. Next spring he will drive his own truck. He has had to knock on doors, convince people to spend their money with a neighborhood kid, and deliver a consistent product. He has 14 regular customers for mowing at 40/wk each and then has been busy with leaves and mulching this fall. We're teaching him that the way to freedom and success in this country is to rely on yourself and not be an office drone.[/quote]

I agree. We demand our kids work just like we did at a young age. It teaches them a work ethic that will carry them a long way.  The kids who have a life spoon fed to them do not do well in the real world.

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Interesting discussion.  I am Asian and we don't expect teenagers to have part time jobs.  Asian parents want their kids to focus on their grades and academics which we consider their "job".  [/quote]

I am white but with the Asian parents here. Maybe if my kids would overindulge and get cocky and know it all about life I would push a manual labor experience but that's about it. [/quote]
Did you read the post about how all things being equal, an employer would rather hire someone who has  *some* kind of work experience (be it manual, fast food services, or white collar) than over someone who has no work experience?  You might be doing your child a disservice.  Also, colleges see a lot of applicants with stellar education credentials.  What will set your child apart from the rest of the pack?  If I saw a kid that had not the best test scores/grades, but had a side business mowing lawns, I'd pick him over a student with excellent grades and nothing else.  Why?  Because the other student shows leadership and entrepreneural skills in the real world, and chances are, this is the kind of person that will start a company, create jobs, and become a leader in the real world.[/quote]

Depends on what kind of work experience. To get my kid an elite job I'll be pulling connections for him to intern at a friends office in some capacity or another during his summer. Not mowing lawns. If he starts his own business it will be something to do in the tech start up realm. Other than that his job is school. You have to play it smart. Frankly Goldman Sachs ain't looking for waiteressing experience. [/quote]

But what if an "elite job" isn't what he wants to do with his life? Does he have to do that anyway because that's what you think is the only road to success?

Also, I've been at companies where we've had interns who are only there because some exec's friend pulled connections to put him there.  Invariably they are a PITA.  I always thought it must be horribly demoralizing to a kid to know he can only get a job because Daddy called in favor.  [/quote]

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