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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is somewhat beta in that he (like PP) prioritized family time and quality of life over climbing the ladder at work and making a lot of money. He is very bright and went to good law schools but chose to leave a law firm where he had higher income potential (but also had to work long hours and bring in business, which he has no appetite for) to become a fed. He loves the regular hours, free weekends, etc but he is still challenged in his work and has stimulating projects.

BUT - he's not bringing home the dough, nor am I. We live a solidly middle class life and he's able to spend a good amount of time with me and the kids. Neither of us prioritize material things like fancy cars, updated house, etc but we are comfortable. Neither of us are particularly ambitious.

So in this sense, we are both betas. But DH isn't a slacker; he does work hard, is intellectually curious and isn't at all lazy. I respect him a great deal.

So yes, I married a beta but I'm still happy. [b]He's not the sort to toss me over his shoulder and carry me in the bedroom, [u]and I do miss that a bit[/u][/b], but if I worked up the nerve to tell him that, he would be willing to give it a try. :)[/quote]

Took you long enough to get to the point.  [/quote]

If that's what you got out of the PP's post, you have utterly missed the point.[/quote]

My point is that none of what she wrote previous to that makes him beta.  But from what I read, she seems to think he's a beta in the bedroom which makes him a beta in life.  That's what I got out of it.

Mind you, I think the whole alpha/beta thing is nonsense.  We aren't pack animals and in pack behavior, the beta is not a slacker, he's the next in line male just waiting for the alpha to show a sign of weakness.  He's the next alpha.  You people parrot this nonsense about alphas and betas without any real understanding.  There's also quite a bit of conflating ambition and high income jobs with a dominant personality.  [b]Successful people are not always dominant and dominant people are not always successful.  And neither of these have any automatic correlation with behavior in the bedroom.[/b]  [/quote]

+1000

Well said, and extremely wise - and accurate!

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Yup. As a woman in business I easily steamroll quite a few dominant men on a daily basis. I hardly ever lose. If I don't crush them head on, I'll change tactics and operate behind the scenes to get what I want. Tactic 2 is my forte.[/quote]

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