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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being a good parent is about time, attention, stability, love, availability, etc.  It has nothing to do with who you are putting your penis in.  Your sex life has nothing to do with kids.  So long as the parent is taking finances or attention from the kids, it isn't relevant.

It's like asking whether a woman is a good mom if she isn't having regular sex with her husband.  Men would be tempted to say yes, but the truth is they aren't related unless either the lack of marital sex or the affair rips up the family home.[/quote]

It does have to do with the kids.  The cheater is not being a good role model to his/her children.  [b]If the cheater is unhappy in the marriage, then the cheater should get divorced.[/b][/quote]

Children thrive on stability.  On average, a child from a broken home does worse than a child from an intact home (not saying all children from broken homes are bad, or all children from intact homes are great, but the literature on the averages is indisputable).

Therefore, a man who divorces his wife and breaks up his family to get his sexual needs met is a worse father than one who stays in the marriage and cheats.  A cheater may be a worse husband but better father.[/quote]

Keep drinking the kool aid, affair partner.  If that is case,[b] why not tell the wife and put the affair out in the open under the guise of great parenting.[/b]  Then it is no longer an affair and an open marriage.  If two married people agree to that then by all means you have a completely different situation.  Betrayal is betrayal.  [/quote]

Because most wives aren't going to grant an open relationship.

But I agree with you, that parents who are mature need to find ways to meet each other's emotional and sexual needs for the sake of keeping an intact home for the children.  If one spouse refuses to do so, that spouse is not being a good parent to their children because they jeopardize the marriage which is essential to a well-adjusted child.  Being a good parent means staying in the marriage and doing what you need to do to stay sane.  Divorcing is the easy way out, and divides the time, money and resources that the children are entitled to.[/quote]

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