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[quote=Anonymous]You don't have to introduce your LT boyfriend to your family, but it might actually help you to survive one of your visits if you have someone who understands you, your current life and the changes you've made to help you balance.

My family is much more normal than yours, but it is very stressful in very different ways.  I purposely live far from them because while I love them, I can't be sucked into the family dramas and issues surrounding cultural differences all the time.  But I do visit regularly.  My wife understands how stressful the family visits are on me and when she comes, she is an emotional anchor for me.  I can go out to the store to pick something up, bring her with me and vent in the car.  Sometimes even in the midst of some family drama, just catching her eye and getting non-verbal sympathy is enough to let me steel myself for round 2.  We can now joke about the family dynamics because she's lived through week-long visits that seemed like so much longer (as Harry Chapin once said "I spent a week there one afternoon").  Likewise, my wife finds it helpful for me to be around when we visit my in-laws because I don't have 40 years of family baggage to carry around and some things which are hot-button issues for her don't phase me.  So I can do some things and run interference between her and her mother or her and her brother in the right situations.

Good luck.[/quote]

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