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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it is great to disinclude kids just because you need to limit the party to just a few good friends so that others don't feel excluded.  That encourages clique behavior which can really be detrimental to the class social dynamics.

I don't think there is a good solution.  You just have to pick the solution that has the least drawbacks for you: invite the bully/possible consequences if he comes, don't invite the bully/look like the bad guy, have bully get more upset with your child, etc.

I was in a similar situation in PK.  There was one mean kid, who didn't specifically bully my kid but was generally unpleasant to everyone.  My kid begged me not to invite him, but I decided to invite him and just make sure they were separated as much as possible.  Well, that kid didn't even rsvp or bother to come.

[b]So I'd probably invite the bully and write a polite but direct note on the invitation saying that you are aware of the conflict that your kids have and that if he is able to attend, you would like to brainstorm with the parents about ways to minimize party conflict. 
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Even without the note,  I'm guessing the bully will not want to come to your child's party anyway.  But that note will probably prevent the bully from coming unless he has really amazing parents who genuinely do want help make peace between the kids.  And then I think good might come from that invitation.  From what you said, that doesn't sound like the case at all.  But think about it, what parent really wants to bother to buy a gift/drive their kid to a party when their kid and birthday boy hate each other.  I think the chances that the bully will come is minimal.  [/quote]

Wow, that's one creative solution! :lol: I just imagined receiving such an 'invite': "Come celebrate with us, and, BTW, your kid's an asshole".

OP, I firmly stand in the no-bully crowd, however, I'd only invite 8-9 kids from the class and add more close friends from K, preK, etc. [/quote]

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