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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes I'm discrete about being an atheist. [/quote]

This. I don't out myself for just anyone. It goes double when I meet with religious blacks, since I am black. [/quote]

Unless you decide to take the opportunity to show them that a nice black person like you can be an atheist.  Otherwise, the stereotype continues.[/quote]

I do when possible. But [b]I have become unwelcome[/b] in certain black businesses that I would use (like a hair salon) in the past when it came out I did not go to church. If people get to know me first then my lack of faith isn't really an issue, if it is revealed.[/quote]

You mean they wouldn't let you do business with them?  or do they just treat you differently?  If the latter, I'd go back anyhow, be as nice as pie and see what happens.  I hate to think that blacks, who know so much about oppression, would oppress one of their own because of their beliefs.

Minority groups didn't make progress by backing down[/quote]

[b]I went to a hair salon years ago[/b] and where I went to church came up in conversation. I responded very honestly that I didn't go to church. When asked why, and if I wanted to go to church with the stylist, I politely declined and explained that I didn't believe in religion. The next time I went there to get my hair done, she did the service, but told me that she thought it was best that I not return, because she was not comfortable with someone who did not go to church visiting her business.

I too would like to think that black people are open minded, and many of us are, but there are certain taboos and I broke one of them. Church is still at the heart of the community and to turn away from it is like turning away from the community.

After that, if I patronized a business on a regular basis, I was careful to watch for what became a code, "Do you have a church home?" That's when I knew my queue was to look elsewhere. Now my stylist is Korean and no one cares at that place or even discusses it! :)[/quote]

I hope it was a long, long time ago and that the stylist has changed her ways.  Maybe the next time you hear the code words, you can say something like "no, but can I continue using your services?  I was once asked not to come back when I said that I didn't attend church and I don't want that to happen again, it was embarrassing."[/quote]

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