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[quote=Anonymous]This may or may not be true for you, but you are exhibiting a lot of the standard symptoms of burnout.  I've seen it most often as caretaker burnout like the family member that needs to help/care for an ill or aging family member, but it affects everyone.  You seem to be overwhelmed by the burdens of your family, not getting enough support and most definitely by not having enough "me" time.

Some solutions are to outsource some of the work.  If you are SAH then get either a mother's helper to help you with tasks around the house or get a housecleaning service that can help with housework.  Set up at least one night that you have off to go out and do something solely for yourself and that your partner is required to be home before dinner.  He takes care of dinner for himself and the kids and you have "Mama's night off".  Alternatively, if it would make you feel better, get a sitter and have a date night.  These two ideas (night off vs date night) work better or worse for different individuals.  You can also mix and match.  Your GP is right, you need rest and sleep.  Different people find different things to be reenergizing.  You need to find what those things are for you, and make time for them or you will continue to experience the burnout from the demands of your family.  If your partner is not willing or able to take up the slack, then outsource them.  If he complains, tell him he either needs to step up to the plate and help out, let you pay to outsource or let him figure out an alternate solution that still gives you the time to do what you need to restore your personal balance.  It's a zero sum game.  The more of you that you give to your family, the less that you have to take care of yourself.  If you collapse from exhaustion, it will only be that much worse for your family, so make the time to take care of yourself.

When my twins were just over a year old, I pushed myself and pushed myself ignoring the twinges and pains and ended up overstraining my back.  I was out of commission for 3 days when I could barely move.  I was on pain killers and muscle relaxants and had to take 3 days of leave from work, plus could barely do anything at home.  We realized then, that we had to make some changes to the household distribution of work to ensure that I didn't overdo it again.  The changes in our family have been healthy for all of us in the long run.  Hopefully it doesn't take anything as extreme as that for your family to wake up.[/quote]

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