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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: I'm not saying that there isn't a grain of truth to what her kids are saying. Most of our family lives in the Midwest and is more mainstream. My kids adore their aunt because she is fun and indulgent with junk food and toys and I tell her often how well loved she is by my kids. With her family, I have tried to think ahead about what would make them comfortable in terms of diet and style. For example, we bought/served foods that are not our typical fare (red meat, chips, etc.) and have not made a big deal about buying it especially for them (although husband went out and bought new cereal to accommodate kids who think Cheerios, Rice Krispies and Raisin Bran taste like bark) . I have also been more lenient about family rules like bedtimes since it's more of a vacation atmosphere.  But, it's clear that our families have different styles. I'm just bummed because I feel like I am trying hard to be a good/accommodating host, but I'm still getting these messages from her.

I like her kids, who are young elementary aged. I don't want to engage with them directly about what they are telling their mom when I'm not around. Honestly, I feel bad that their mom is putting them in an awkward position as well. I think I will follow the PP's advice about trying to redirect the conversation.  [/quote]

[b]You are insufferable and you clearly believe that you are better at parenting then SIL. That attitude comes across in eveything though I know you believe you ar hiding it well. [/b]

I promise - kids who eat sugary cereals and red meat are not I cultured, uneducated brats who need to be taught the value of the finer things in life. Just stop.[/quote]
I didn't read it like this at all. OP said she's tried to provide tasty cereals and other foods they'll like, and it seems like she allows junk food for her kids from the aunt. it seems to me like she's being a good host.

But regardless, it also seems like the SIL is being passive-aggressive and is cloaking her feelings about OP as statements from her kids. [/quote]

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