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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ask her if she wants to come home and make up some family excuse and bring her home.[/quote]

Just curious PP, but what kind of message do you think this would send to this child? [/quote]

No the PP but to me it sends the message that when people are enjoying a place or activity that is totally optional, they leave.

Really there is not gold medal for staying at summer camp. Its supposed to be fun. If it's not, why stay?  Come home, try another camp.

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[b]It sends a message that the child can't handle anything without mom and dad[/b]. It sends a message you don't believe she can succeed in a social situation where maturity and adjustment is necessary. It sends a message that she was right to doubt whether she really belonged with her friends. That will not help her and will probably make her feel bad about herself when she sees those peers again outside of camp.  Not helping at all.

There is no medal for staying but there is a reward she can win- learning to navigate a new situation and enjoying the activities once an adjustment begins.

Better now than her first week of college. [/quote]

But no, it doesn't. It only sends that message to you as the parent because you want it to.

You go somewhere crappy and it isn't what you think. you don't like the accommodations, you don't like the food, you don't like the people - so you decide you would rather be at home, and you leave. Maybe you call a friend to come get you, maybe you take a cab, etc A kid is making the same choice except of course they have to call mom/dad to help them leave.

And you are totally naive and ridiculous if you think that somehow going to summer camp as a 12 yr old is then going to remove the homesickness the first week of college. That is absolutely still going to happen.  Going to college is a massive change and is in no way comparable to a few weeks of summer camp.[/quote]

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