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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't control other people, you can only control you. Expect the SILs boys to maintain the same standards of behavior as the rest of the family (once those have been explained of course) and then enforce them. If SIL cries to BIL oh well. And if he gets upset just stay calm yourself and say you of course you love the. And want them there as long as they comport with the general expectations.

Your BIL and SIL are being unreasonable and manipulative in their behavior to the detriment of everyone else.  Stop making excuses and accommodating it.[/quote]

And, yet, at the same time I can see how this sort of arrangement - going to a new stepdad's, brother's , in-law's house would be...daunting to a couple of awkward little boys.  [/quote]

+1. OP, your family sounds awfully in each other's business - everyone spends the summer together (all summer? really?) and Sunday dinners too? And these new boys have been introduced to the mix, and they don't like the same stuff as your kids do. And, how outrageous, they're fat and unathletic?

Give it a rest, and maybe let your kids meet the new boys on their own turf. You don't sound like you have anything on them in terms of bad behavior toward their new step-siblings; just that they are lazy and rude etc etc. I don't know how old these kids are or what ages you are used to, but tween and teen boys can pack a lot of attitude. That doesn't make them sociopaths. I'd give them space, drop the judgment on their weight and sportiness, and try to understand what this situation must feel like for them.[/quote]

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