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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand how people just move after living in a community their whole life.  I am fifty.  I have spent my whole life building a life.  My wife has friends, I have friends.  We belong to civic organizations, social organizations. There are professionals I rely on.  Trades people that I can count on.  I play golf. My wife plays tennis.  I have known my neighbors for many many years.  I can't imagine any circumstances where I would just pack up the car and move away, just to be a little closer to one of my children. [/quote]

My parents' #1 priority in their lives is to be near their grandchildren and to support their children.  I can't imagine picking up and moving to, say, Missouri, because that's where a kid was but my parents would seriously consider it.

We moved to be closer to my parents, then my parents purchased a home that was close to both my sister and me so that they could be easily available to help with the grandkids, school pickup/dropoff, etc. They are still reasonably close to most of their friends and family, but they wouldn't live somewhere with no grandkids nearby.  I

It works pretty well because we have boundaries.  My parents are primary child care but they don't stick around (or expect us to stay at their place) for more than 15 minutes for pickup/drop off - just long enough to get the kids settled.  They don't expect us to spend our weekends with them, they don't barge into our house unannounced, etc.  When they do invite themselves over it's with a "hey, if you want to go to the gym or run errands I can watch the kids for a bit this morning." If my parents tried to meddle in my marriage this situation would be a nightmare.  [/quote]

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