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I'm sorry to say, OP, but your DH is, indeed, acting like an ass in this situation. He's an adult and can choose not to be "beside himself" over cat pee and cat puke. Frankly, in the big scheme of life, these are minor things for him to lose his shit over. The cat, on the other hand, is helpless and counted on you to keep your promise to give her a safe life where she would be loved and cared for. If you get rid of her, you're not just letting her down, you may well be sending her off to an early death, even though you already know she is in good health.

Stand up to your DH and ask yourself why you would capitulate to a person who has such little regard for a living thing that he would ask you to kill your cat.[/quote]

PP, it's great that you can tolerate cat pee and puke all over your bedroom, but not everyone can.  He's not asking me to kill the cat.  If he did, I'd tell him he's welcome to go ahead and do it his damn self.  He wants her gone, yes, but he's not once demanded she be put down.  [b]I'm the one who'd be more inclined to go that route[/b] if it was the kinder end for my cat.  It's not a matter of standing up to him - it's recognizing that asking him to just live with the frequent pee all over is a huge, huge ask, and I don't want to set up a "my way or the highway" in a situation where the cat has maybe a short time left in her lifespan anyway.  He has a lot of regard for living things, but he just can't be on board with wondering if his pillow will be covered in piss when he goes to bed.  It's been more times than I care to count that I've crawled into bed and found my legs meeting a big wet spot.  This cat has already cost us thousands to deal with the pee.

[b]Frankly, the argument that I made a promise to give the cat a safe life and care for her doesn't make me feel particularly guilty. [/b] I've done so for 13 years.  Not sure she would have fared better in a Florida animal shelter.  She's had a good run of it and I'm not tossing her outside at the first sign of a problem.  [b]This cat has been treated well for a long, long time, including through MANY episodes that could have warranted an earlier departure from our home.  Save the guilt trip for someone else, as it's quite wasted on me.[/b][/quote]

Well, there you have it. Your priorities are clear and you feel fine throwing away your commitment and killing your cat. Go for it. Your cat isn't sick. She is inconvenient for you. You are also apparently lazy because it's pretty easy to change a sheet or a pillowcase and there are tons of products that can clean up after an incontinent cat. But go ahead, send your cat somewhere to be killed because you and your DH can't be bothered.

I don't even understand why you started this thread, except maybe to draw all the pet haters. You knew what you wanted to do. So do it, and shut up about it. You certainly don't give a damn about killing your cat, why would you care what anyone who disagrees with you might think? Oh wait, you don't. So why are you here again?[/quote]

Okay, rage-filled PP.  I'm pretty lazy because after 13 years of throwing away pillows, beanbags, pillow top mattresses, tearing up carpets, professionally cleaning carpets, replacing couch cushions, attempting to clean leather chairs...it's finally gotten to a frequency that is overwhelming.  I am a cat hating heartless murderer.  I've thrown away my commitment (13 years in) because my cat is inconvenient.  Through hundreds of clean-ups and thousands in spending, I've been an undedicated, hateful person.  Understood.  Thanks for setting me straight.  Now I'll FOR SURE see the light.[/quote]

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