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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DH is the horrible person here.

I would draw a hard line about trying a litter box in a new place before calling it a day--and pressing the vet about there being some source of pain that might be treated. Your cat is probably getting old and uncomfortable if she is not willing to go downstairs to use the litter box.

Check out the first quality of life scale here to see if it is close to time:

http://www.lapoflove.com/Quality-of-Life/Determining-Pet-Quality-of-Life

We put our cat down last week due to cancer and that scale helped us determine when it was time.

And, fwiw, DH took time off work to go with me, and it is possibly the only time I have seen him cry outside of a movie theater. Your DH needn't love the cat, but he could show some common decency for the cat and you.[/quote]

In defense of my spouse, he's been very grudgingly putting up with the animal for more than ten years. She has peed in many other places. She's a very anxious cat. Between cat pee and cat puke he's pretty much beside himself and can't stand it. His natural inclination would be to throw her out the front door at first offense, so he's put in a lot of time tolerating her already. This is pretty much the last straw for him. [/quote]

I'm sorry to say, OP, but your DH is, indeed, acting like an ass in this situation. He's an adult and can choose not to be "beside himself" over cat pee and cat puke. Frankly, in the big scheme of life, these are minor things for him to lose his shit over. The cat, on the other hand, is helpless and counted on you to keep your promise to give her a safe life where she would be loved and cared for. If you get rid of her, you're not just letting her down, you may well be sending her off to an early death, even though you already know she is in good health.

Stand up to your DH and ask yourself why you would capitulate to a person who has such little regard for a living thing that he would ask you to kill your cat.[/quote]

PP, it's great that you can tolerate cat pee and puke all over your bedroom, but not everyone can.  He's not asking me to kill the cat.  If he did, I'd tell him he's welcome to go ahead and do it his damn self.  He wants her gone, yes, but he's not once demanded she be put down.  I'm the one who'd be more inclined to go that route if it was the kinder end for my cat.  It's not a matter of standing up to him - it's recognizing that asking him to just live with the frequent pee all over is a huge, huge ask, and I don't want to set up a "my way or the highway" in a situation where the cat has maybe a short time left in her lifespan anyway.  He has a lot of regard for living things, but he just can't be on board with wondering if his pillow will be covered in piss when he goes to bed.  It's been more times than I care to count that I've crawled into bed and found my legs meeting a big wet spot.  This cat has already cost us thousands to deal with the pee.

Frankly, the argument that I made a promise to give the cat a safe life and care for her doesn't make me feel particularly guilty.  I've done so for 13 years.  Not sure she would have fared better in a Florida animal shelter.  She's had a good run of it and I'm not tossing her outside at the first sign of a problem.  This cat has been treated well for a long, long time, including through MANY episodes that could have warranted an earlier departure from our home.  Save the guilt trip for someone else, as it's quite wasted on me.[/quote]

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