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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in my 40's, a single mom, and I really enjoy my life.  While I think it's great that many kids have involved fathers, I knew a lot of fathers during my childhood who were completely crappy, and I find it hard to regard them as a necessity.

If women in DC want to marry, they are up against a lot of demographic challenges.  The ratio of men to women is lower than it is on the West Coast.  The men in this area are going to disproportionately live in the burbs, near the tech and biotech firms, while women are disproportionately working for nonprofits and law firms in the city. A lot of men out here had non-working mothers, so they think that women exist to clean up after them and tell them how smart they are.

One good way to spend one's time is to do volunteer work, especially in an activity like youth sports or doing hands on building projects, like Habitat for Humanity, so that the male female ratio is higher.  Even if your friend doesn't meet anyone doing this, the sense of satisfaction form helping others and completing a project will be quite satisfying.  [/quote]

You are spot on about the demographics. My future husband lived in an exurb and was already a homeowner.  He was a professional puruing a masters' degree. I was living and working in Arlington, like many of my female friends. I also noticed that the desireable single men usually left the area to pursue graduate degrees after getting a couple of years of work experience and then bam! They'd get married the minute they had that sheepskin in hand to whoever they happened to be dating at the time. I dated throughout my 20s and early 30s but the men were immature or weren't going to earn enough to support a family (working in non-profits like me). Also, the guys I met through clubs and gyms were incredibly boring and seemed to be obsessed with the sport more than anything (extreme sport).

I met my hubby in church through a singles ministry, btw, but you have to be willing to talk the talk and walk the walk.[/quote]

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