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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is awful.  Your cousin totally sucks.  Totally.  There is no excuse.  You say she has done this before?  WTF?

I have two related stories that make my blood boil to this day:

1) My brother died from bipolar disorder by suicide.  I still have a significant traumatic reaction to finding out about his death - it's the worst thing that I have ever experienced.  Thankfully, I did not find out on Facebook.  However, within an hour of me finding out about his death, I got messages from childhood friends with condolences on Facebook.  Turns out, the 911 operator who took the call was an acquaintance of ours from middle school.  He almost immediately posted a message that said something like, "RIP [my brother's name].  I'm so sorry you felt like you had to take your own life.  I hope you are at peace now."  He didn't give a shit about my brother.  He just wanted to be the person to get lots of attention for posting about it.  Fucker even got condolences from people as if he was a friend.  I seriously considered (and sometimes still do) writing to his supervisor to get him fired or reprimanded, but it's the last thing my brother would ever want me to do so I have held off.

2) My DH's dear friend's 2 year old daughter died from cancer earlier this year.  Facebook was her mom's main way of getting support through their harrowing battle with this terrible disease.  The mom posted nearly every day, usually multiple times a day,  with lots of pictures and medical details.  She seemed to take sustenance from the prayers, likes, and loving comments she'd get from her hundreds and later thousands (she built a huge network of friends among other pediatric cancer parents) of friends every day, and DH and I both posted often just so she and her husband knew their daughter was in our hearts and prayers every day.  When she went silent for a couple of days, we knew things were really dire.  One night, I came downstairs after putting our baby to bed, and my DH was in tears.  He had found out that the sweet baby had died, not from his friend or his friend's wife, but from a girlfriend of a mutual friend of ours who took it upon herself to post a message of condolence to the mom's wall even before the mom herself had chosen to inform the world of her child's death.

The manner of finding out the baby had died did not make her death any less sad, but we were both SO furious that this person who was barely an acquaintance of the parents took it upon herself to usurp the parents' right to disclose their daughter's death on their own timeline and terms.  How selfish can you be, to think that you should be the first one to post about something like that?

Auuugh, I get enraged just thinking about it.[/quote]

Wow. I'm so so sorry about your brother and what that shitty operator did.  That must be so difficult to not have said anything to the supervisor.  I guess you just have to think his life must be sad that he craves attention like this?  Either way I'm sorry about both incidence.  So many selfish people out there.
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