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[quote=Anonymous]Hey,

My dad passed away and my mom is like that.

I have to say that I do NOT regret  Father's Dayd or birthdayd I spent apart from him, because my relationship with him, while imperfect, was between him and me.
Her desire to have sticky finger prints all over it was resisted.

When he was dying, we talked about his relationship with her (as a person who required care and empathy) and he felt like he was letting her down for not being who she wanted him to be (essentially, immortal).

I found myself explaining to him that I learned along the way I could not make her happy by checking off boxes on her tally sheet, and neither could he, BUT, he was a good person who accomplished a lot in spite of that burden.

Don't fall into the trap, drink the Kool Aid, dance on quicksand, whatever.

You could say, "I wish things were different, but yeah, we can't make it. I have a plan to do something special for him, though." Then don't tell her what it is and send a little card or note.

His expectations are probably different than yours. In spite of what Dr. Phil says, you can't teach people how to treat you (because they won't change) but you will become a little more calloused with practice, in a good way.

GOOD LUCK HON.

You can't fix this because you didn't break it.

&lt;hugs&gt; [/quote]

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