Reply to Now what?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Now what?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perhaps your DH wants to see his mother and that is why he has no issue.  I actually think you are out of line.  If my DH tried to prevent my mother from visiting I would be pissed with him.  However I do not expect my Dh to entertain my mom and your Dh shouldn't expect you to either.

[/quote]

I agree with this - my DH and I have a deal that we don't veto either of our parent's visiting (this does not include other family members) - no questions asked.  But that also means that it is up to the child to entertain/deal with their parent(s).  I would never tell my DH or his mom that she couldn't come to our home - but I would for sure go about my business if the time was inconvenient.  Don't take off work, don't change your plans, don't cook special meals (DO cook enough for her to eat if you are cooking).

However, this is something *that we have already discussed*.

Also, are you sure that she didn't talk to your DH and book the tickets?  Just buying the tickets and not speaking to either of you is one thing, but talking to your DH about it and not you is something different.  [b]I honestly don't think she SHOULD have to talk to you to come visit her son and grandchildren. [/b] But that means that she can't expect anything from you either.  No special meals, no taking off work, no driving her around, etc.[/quote]

Do you mean that the mother is in the clear if she checked with her son?  Then I agree--if Son told her that the trip was fine, it's not on her to follow-up and verify that with DIL.  But I do think that parents (and kids) need to check before making plans to travel to see someone, even if that someone is close family who would always welcome them.  People may have other plans, a given week might be expecially hectic or stressful, etc.  It's just basic good manners to make sure that the timing of your visit is convenient for your hosts.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics