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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are your kids, op? I have found that activities/practices start later now that my kids are upper elem school and middle school.  Otherwise, your options are a nanny or carpool (maybe you could find someone who could always drive the kids to the activity, and you could always drive home).  Also, and admittedly I have no idea what your husband's job is, but sometimes my spouse and I have had to cut out from work "early" one night a week to take a kid to an activity - we are both lawyers, so we have the kind of jobs where we can continue to work (on cell phone, laptop, etc.) while the child participates in the activity (and we work from home every night anyway).  This took some convincing of my DH btw.   [/quote]

OP here. DH is a lawyer too. Face time is so important at firms, so I hear. :([/quote]

I call b.s.. Your husband can leave early a night a week to take his kid to soccer.  Both my husband and I worked for big firms and never had to work til 9 in the office every single night.[/quote]

DH is an attorney, too. I changed my hours to shorten them a bit when our first was born, but when our second was born, I had a heart-to-heart with DH and told him he needed to be home for dinner a few nights a week, at least. He's a senior associate, so it's not easy, but he has made it happen (he always works more after the kids' bedtimes, but he usually comes home early 2 nights a week). It can't always happen (sometimes there's a crazy deadline or a client meeting or something) but he has made a big effort. Your DH needs to do the same, OP. If his firm really expects everyone to work until 9pm every night, it sounds like a bad place for a parent to work and he should move on.[/quote]

DH is trying to make partner so he has become a bit of a workaholic.  He does not work til 9 most Friday nights and he is at home Saturday evenings and all day Sunday.  I want to support his trying to make partner so I see this as hopefully a short-term sacrifice.  I think limiting the kids' activities until weekends for now will be fine; then, we can adjust schedules later if one of them develops a special interest and needs to spend more time at practice/lessons/shows, etc.  I also have taken PPs' advice and started exploring more of what's available through their schools (DS is starting at a new school next school year that has a robotics course and Spanish afterschool. DD's school has dance and music lessons at her school next year).[/quote]

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