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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this boils down to just how close you feel to these girls if you are like me and my best friends we are practically sisters so yes it would hurt my feelings if they were cultivating a friendship between them and leaving me out.

[b]By the same token I would not do that to them. I also think most women do not have the closeness that I do with my friends, I think most women have a few "good friends" but with me and my 3 best friends literally we are almost inseparable. We speak on the phone almost every day or every other and see each other at least 2-3 times a week.[/b]

So anything along that line would definitely hurt me, for a more casual friendship I don't think you really have much say in the matter though you could certainly voice your opinion, it might backfire and make them keep some distance if they feel under the microscope.[/quote]

It may not be the case with OP and her friends but it is important to recognize that people need different things and have different personalities.  If having someone that can be inseparable is a criteria for friendship, not everyone can be your friend or you may lose friends.  My big thing is taking the initiative to plan things and being reachable.  There may be some great people out there that never take the initiative to plan things/reach out of for whatever reason is barely reachable and that person will not be a good friend match for me.

I agree with the PPs that said OP can say a gentle "I would love to meet up with the two of you next time you plan something" but beyond that either they aren't a good match for OP if she needs total loyalty/inseparable in a friendship OR it really is a matter of it being OP and the people trying to put distance in their relationship with her for some reason.[/quote]

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