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[quote=Anonymous]Are you sure DC1 is really that much more accomplished or that you've just become a little more numbed to the accomplishments of DC2 because they aren't totally new to you anymore?  Try to see them in a new light, as if DC1 never did them.

As others have said, it's not about accomplishments.  It's about people and love.  Focus on the effort and praise it, not the accomplishments.  If you put the focus on the kids themselves and not on the things they do, then they won't feel they have to be "good" just to earn your love.

Although it seems like DC1 is doing these amazing things just because he's amazing, it's possible that he's pushing himself too hard and isn't really happy.  I speak from experience -- I pushed myself super hard and felt I had to be "amazing" because that's what my parents wanted.  If you look at it from this perspective, it's possible that DC2 will actually be a happier and more accomplished person in the long run!

Help both kids explore their passions and do things they love.  It doesn't matter if they are good at it or not.  If DC2 asks about the "great" things DC1 has done or is doing, just remind him that everyone is different and that DC1 wasn't doing these particular things when he was DC2's age either.  And that DC2 doesn't have to do those things when he's DC1's age.  There are many different paths in life -- perhaps help your kids explore and learn about people who have all taken different routes to happiness.[/quote]

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