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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two children (both boys) who are now in their early 30's.

S1 is great at EVERYTHING he has ever done.  He did not take after either parent (both average with +/-'s).  He was a great student, a great athlete, popular, caring, even tempered, and just about everything else that you could imagine.  Since he was young, he has gotten out of bed at 5am and literally almost sprinted through the day with what seems like effortless grace until late into the evening 7 days a week.  In high school and college he tutored kids in his class, raised money for numerous charities and travled on missions throughout the world.

S1 was admitted into the 4 Ivy league schools that he applied to but chose to go to Duke as it was a full ride scholarship (we paid nothing).  He was admitted to Johns Hopkins on another full ride scholarship for medical school and is now a Cardiothoracic Surgeon at a top hospital.  He possess a superhuman dedication, is incredibility intelligent and has the ability to work harder than any other person that I have ever seen on the planet.

S2 is 3 years younger and we an OK student.  He was a normal kid with his ups and downs.  Is a fine young man but like most has his warts.

I love them both but its really not a question of who the better person is.  I never tried to compare the two while they were growing up and the OP should not as well.  For those that say everyone has there strengths and weakness is full of it.[/quote]

OP here.   But how did you keep S2 from feeling bad about how well S1 did?  Did you just tell S2 that you were impressed with A, B, C that S2 did?  Did you tell him that everyone is different if he ever asked about S1 and his achievements?

Just wondering how to parent and make second child feel good about himself while first child is doing amazing at this, that, and the other.  Also, do I congratulate first child just by himself when second child can't hear or just praise both in front of each other?[/quote]

I never equated love with accomplishment.  There are lots of people with more accomplishments than I have.  I recognize that, move forward and live life.  I told S2 that he just happened to be related to someone with gifts and grit that most people do not have.[/quote]

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