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[quote=Anonymous]OP, we faced something like this recently. It sounds to me like your daughter's experience is within the range of normal and would not raise red flags for me. Here is what happened to MY daughter:

A boy that she does not like at school, who hugs and kisses people inappropriately, came onto her mat during nap time. He pulled down her pants and touched her genitals and kissed her on the mouth. She was really uncomfortable but did not want to speak up because she didn't want to get in trouble for being disruptive at nap time. When the teacher noticed what was happening, she intervened and emailed me immediately. When I talked to DD about it, she said "He touched me like a grown up, that's not okay for kids." I asked her how it made her feel and she said that she did not like it and did not want it to happen again. I immediately called a meeting with the classroom teacher, the principal and the school social worker to address the situation.

In your situation, I would tailor my response to what your DD's response is. Did you ask her how the experience made her feel? Did you reinforce that it is always okay for her to tell you if something weird happens to her, because it's your job to keep her safe? Children this age are fascinated with their own anatomy, and I do not think there is anything abnormal about showing. The touching is a little but upsetting, but in the context of an otherwise normal interaction, it does not spook me. What happened to my daughter was very different and very abnormal, starting with the sneaking and ending with the "like a grown up."[/quote]

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