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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was raised to believe that marriage is for life.  So, the term “starter marriage” is silly to me.  My “starter marriage” has been going strong for 35 years.  Hopefully, for many more.  Our two kids are very happy about the fact that their parents have remained married, despite the tough times.  
Hopefully, my two kids will have the same perseverance in their marriages.  [/quote]

Congrats.  I'm wondering what major hurdles you and your spouse overcame.  Money issues, cheating?  I'm in a rut right now and not sure this is going to be for life.  [/quote]

Money issues?  Definitely.  I’m a saver, my spouse - a spender.  Some years were very very lean.  Made do with the basics - food, mortgage, child care, etc.  Rarely ate out and date nights were spent at home.  Many fights about spending/saving.  Struggled a lot - but now things are good.  
Had two great kids - but even great kids can present big problems.  Worked through that too.  Spent some time seeking assistance from our church minister.  That helped.  No judging - just advice.  Kids are now on their own and life is good for both of them.  
No cheating.  Really - none.  We both took our marriage vows very seriously.  That is one thing that has helped - we were both on the same page when it comes to “til death do us part.”  And, “love and cherish in sickness and in health.”  
[b]Seems as if when life was particularly hard for one of us (death of parents), the other stepped up to the plate and took on more “family responsibility.”  [/b]Marriage truly is a partnership.
The “passion” in marriage frequently dies.  But, when it does, the “love” part should take hold strongly.  
Remember what it was about your partner that drew you to him/her.  Don’t focus on the flaws - Lord knows we all  have them.  [/quote]

More than family stuff, carried the emotional load for awhile. You are so correct about what you wrote. Trust - that when things are hard, you'll be there.  How can you experience this if you look at it as a 'starter marriage'? [/quote]

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