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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm with you, OP.  I've posted here for years about my husband not being into touch generally and having a fairly low sex drive.  I was faithful all through our dating years, engagement and the first seven or so years of marriage. Then I met a guy who just swept me off my feet. I couldn't have stayed married without the OM, and it's definitely been best for my kids that their family is intact.

I would feel guilty if my affair prevented me from giving the time and attention to my husband and kids that they need and want, but since it didn't, it's a win win.[/quote]

OP here. You're actually talking about a different scenario than I am.  I am not talking about maintaining a mistress/mister on the side because that speaks to longterm duplicity and a host of other issues.  I can definitely see how being an unwitting co-wife/co-husband would piss a person off.

I am talking about a simple oil change.  A one-time cleaning of the pipes, so to speak.  I don't see why one-offs without feelings, money, or time exchanged fill people with such guilt/anger.[/quote]
[b]Are you on the autism spectrum?[/b] I'm not trying to be funny. I can understand if you don't think cheating is a big deal, but to not understand why anyone else would speaks to a level of social tone-deafness that is often found in people on the spectrum. A lack of empathy and an inability to put yourself in someone else's shoes.
You draw the line at spending money and time on someone else. Other people draw their line in a different place. I think the biggest problem is knowing where your partner draws his line and choosing to ignore it, even if it's just a one-off thing. Because that's just a shitty thing to do, whether we are talking about having sex with another person or something else.[/quote]

I was thinking the same thing.    Do you feel empathy for anyone, OP?   [/quote]

Not autism, sociopathy. OP should read Confessions of a Sociopath. It would probably be validating.[/quote]

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