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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you are being abused. Not all abuse is physical. He is bringing you down and making you feel like you are worthless so that you actually believe that you are and submit to him and never leave. From what you are saying it sounds like he has already convinced you of it, but you have WORTH and you are a good person.

You need to contact a lawyer and get advice on how to get out. You do not want your child growing up like this, he might be too young now but eventually he will know what is happening. Don't let finances stop you![/quote]

Sorry, but I think you are wrong.  Not all people have worth and not all people are good people.  I took forever to bond with my baby and don't particularly taking care of a baby now, so I'm not a good person.  I much prefer my old life, but that life ended the day I got pregnant.  My life has no worth anymore, it's not about me.[/quote]

Sweetheart, he has brainwashed you.  ALL people have worth.  You need to talk to someone who can help you, fast.  I'm worried about you and your baby.  The feelings you're having could drive you to do something dangerous, even if you think it's the right thing, the right solution.

Please, please, call someone.  You are worthy.  Your child is worthy.  Both of you deserve help.  Please go get it, if not for you, then for your child.[/quote]

The above is why I say what I do.  It's not that he's brainwashed me, but that no one even cares about me anymore.  Even my counselor said what you did, that I need to get help for my baby.  She never mentioned that I needed to be in counseling to make myself feel better.  Financial adviser, same thing.  Everything I do financially now revolves around my child.  
"You want college paid for, right?"  Same with my parents.  No one, in this entire mess has ever acted concerned for me.  [/quote]

That is not at all what I meant, and I am so sorry if my wording caused you additional pain.  The reason I focused on your child is because you seemed to be saying you don't love yourself or consider yourself worthy of help.  I strongly disagree, but convincing you of that would be hard to do over the internet. Still, I assumed that no matter how you feel about yourself, you believe your child is worthy of saving, so I appealed to you on that level.

If you're willing to hear me tell you that you are worthy all on your own, then I will say that and I mean it.  You ARE worthy, with or without your child.  If parenting makes you unhappy, that doesn't make you awful, it just means you need help with that portion of your life.

I am a stranger, but concerned for you.  I care about you, not just your kid.  And I think your husband has convinced you of things that are untrue and horrible.  Stop listening.[/quote]

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