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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was 30 when I got married and was a virgin. My husband also happened to be a virgin, but that wasn't hugely important.

I waited because I didn't want the emotional baggage of having sex (and particularly losing my virginity) and then having the relationship break up. I know myself well enough to know that I couldn't handle it. If my partner could have sex and not get as emotionally involved, I didn't care. I kept my virginity for me, not as some sort of "gift" to give to my spouse.

In hindsight, I also liked that my dating relationships weren't complicated by sex. There were some men that no sex was a dealbreaker, and I respected that, but I also really appreciated the honesty that came with knowing that a person wanted to get together to spend time with me, and not because they were in the mood for sex.

That said, I don't judge others for what they do, nor do I think my approach would make sense for everybody. [/quote]

I don't understand this. How can you be an adult, and in a dating relationship with someone and not having sex? Doesn't that mean you are just friends with this person?  What's the difference between this relationship and your best friend relationships?

If the difference is that you have some sexual contact with this person, then shouldn't a grown up be as comfortable making out or more as they are having sex with someone?  Put another way, if you're okay with your boyfriend putting his hand on your boob or down your pants, shouldn't you be just as comfortable having sex with this person?  Some of you are 30 years old, for goodness sakes!

fwiw, i was 20 when i had sex, so it's not i'm all pro-kids having sex.  But even at the time i knew that my dating relationships prior to then weren't really relationships - they were guys who i liked and hung out with and made out with but had no intimacy with, so it would have been weird to have sex.  But if you're 30, i'd hope that your dating relationships matured farther than my age 16 relationships - in which case, why aren't you having sex? [/quote]

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Pretty sure everyone explained this in their posts.[/quote]

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