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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will condense this, have 2 in college, I have been one of those admittedly helicopter parents who was too hands on, there for every fall. Oh man  if I coudl do things differently. My kids are good kids but no fault of their own used to mommy fixing everything.

I have gone back to school and working so there is no longer the luxury of time, which has been a silver lining as its forcing me to "get tough" with both of them plus the 2 at home. I normally hear from them when they A.want money B.are not doing well in a class or calling to tell me how much the teacher hates them (said tongue in cheek)

My D calls yesterday super dramatic about how one of her teachers "has it out for her"[b] and told her she is getting a D (she is an A/B student) and how she can quit her field hockey team if this is how she is going to do in his class.[/b] It is not a significant class (along the line of art) but she is struggling. She is no art scholar and its a very in depth course however I know she can do it if she really has to. I know her attitude too which can be somewhat entitled, we have tried teaching her that she sometimes needs to be a politician with teachers, my gut says she rubbed him the wrong way.

So she calls hysterical, in tears saying she HAS to drop the course, today is the last day. I told  her no she has to stick it out, thats a lot of moeny and she cannot change classes at this point. Now I know she COULD drop it and the old me is ready to call her and say OK just drop it and it will make everything better but the "new and still in the works me" practically hung up on her a short while ago telling her she needs to figure it out and stick it out no matter what.

I could use some advice here, please no harsh words, I have given myself more than enough trust me, recognizing that I created her seemingly inability to cope when things don't go quite right. So...if this were your child what would you do? How would you handle? Thanks in advance....[/quote]

So is she actually getting a D for the semester?  What exactly did the professor tell her? What were her grades on exams/papers so far?

At this point, no, I wouldn't let her drop.  She will need to work hard and pull up the grade.  In the end, one D in one non-major related class is not going to tank her whole college career.  She can always repeat the class in another semester if need be.

It's a good lesson for her to learn.  She needs to evaluate her classes and professors at the beginning of the semester and adjust then during the drop/add period so she can drop one class and pick up another. [/quote]

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