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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I guess if you've never felt the feeling, its hard to explain. I am thrilled with two, but I truly have the feeling that our family isn't complete yet.  And while I have spent three years working on a way to find peace that this is it for us, that feeling hasn't really gone away at all. Like I said it the beginning, I will be perfectly content if two is all I ever have. I also think its worth exploring the issue one more time with my husband before I close the door completely so that's why I asked if anyone has had a similar experience. [/quote]

NP here.  I think it's fine to explore the issue, but that's not how you phrased your op nor your subsequent posts--those were phrased as though your husband is firmly opposed to a third and you wanted to somehow push him into it (it even sounds like you briefly considered jettisoning birth control without telling him).

The only scenario where I think the person who wants kids potentially trumps the one who doesn't is when a couple had previously agreed to have kids, married based partly on that mutual agreement, and one person backs down.  In that case, I can see a need for therapy or intensive discussion about whether to go ahead and have a kid anyway.  But really, I think it's patently unfair to bring a child into this world if both parents aren't 100% on board.  Raising a kid is hard enough even with that commitment.  Doing so without it is really unfair to the child, and is a recipe for marital problems down the road.  You seem not to see this, which I find troubling.  Simply saying that your husband is a great dad is entirely besides the point.

In this case, the status quo trumps a 3rd child.  I really think that, assuming your husband has been clear about his wishes, you need to let go of your desire for a third child and move on.  [/quote]

I don't know where you got the idea about the birth control but that is absolutely False. In fact, I said, people advised me to accidentally get pregnant and I am vehemently opposed to that. [/quote]

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