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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you've gotten some good advice on dealing with your MIL.  So, here is my unsolicited piece of advice about Legoland (please take with a grain of salt!).

I'm not sure how old your preschooler is, but we went this summer with our 4 kids, then ages 8, 5.5, 3.5, and 7 months.  The older 2 had a blast, but the younger two could only really hang out in Duplo land.  It was fun for the 3.5 year old for the morning, but by the afternoon she was beat.  I ended up wrangling 2 young, cranky kids while DH & the older 2 had a blast.  Based on my experience, you might find putting this whole vacation off for 3-4 years might be more fun.

BUT, that aside, I agree- [b]the issue about how to handle not ever being able to leave MIL alone is a big one, and definitely needs to be addressed now.  What if you had a compelling reason to all be somewhere else at another time?[/b]

Good luck sorting this out![/quote]

+1 to all of this.  The Legoland will wait, your DS sounds a little young for it yet, and leaving your MIL for a whole weekend with a stranger might be a goal to work up to, rather than something to do right now.  But I totally understand that you want to take a vacation!  Separately, sit your DH down and ask him very seriously what would happen if you were incapacitated.  God forbid, what if a medical issue arises with you or one of the kids and you have to be in the hospital?  Emergencies happen.  It wouldn't take much to get in a fender bender, sprain your ankle, kid spikes a high fever, etc.  You're much better off having a caregiver familiar to your MIL who can step in.  Ideally you would have a caregiver service once a week so your MIL can get used to a few elder-sitters, and then you will have someone to call.  If your DH doesn't see this, he is being unreasonable.[/quote]

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