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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How can anyone say cut off contact based on what was initially written?  There's not enough to go on.

It seemed weird to the OP at the time, but she let it go and it's been a moot point for years.  [b]Even professional therapists were not concerned about the story.[/b]

Now, because her 5YO said this, she wants to cut off contact?  The 5YO could be unhappy with this grandparent over something else, it could also be nothing the grandparent's done.  It could be unrelated to the grandparent.  It's impossible to say.

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This. Presumably the therapist is getting a clearer picture from op. [/quote]

That's not exactly what OP said. OP said some didn't think it was anything, some said it was abuse. So clearly it's at least a borderline case.

Honestly, I find the responses here disheartening. Not from an "OMG, OP was uncomfortable so it must be abuse!!!" standpoint, but because OP's instincts once told her something was wrong with what her father did, and now her child's comments combined with her own gut feelings are raising red flags for her again. Such strong red flags that she's considering cutting off contact with her father over this. And yet people who weren't there and in no way witnessed or experienced what OP did are asserting that the father did nothing wrong and the OP should just suck it up. Those kinds of attitudes, ignoring instincts over what's "nice" are  big part of what allows abuse to happen.[/quote]

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