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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You go girl OP! You deserve to be happy. Your kids deserve to see you be happy. Your kids need to see a loving relationship - Not fake happiness.

I consulted a lawyer. I went through my EAP at work which got me an intial consultation. From there I learned what kind of apartment I should rent, how close etc etc.  If your H thinks there is no problem, he will figure it out once you move out.

Be prepared that you will have to be the one to move out. Believe me, confronting my ex H about our issues went on deaf ears. Had I not the balls to move out and on with my life, I gaurantee I'd still be in living in a unhappy marriage struggling to show the real world and to my daughter that really I was happy living a life of BS. No thanks!

Just just cuz you had kids with the guy doesn't 'mean you have to stay with him if you are unhappy and he refuses to think there is a problem. You matter, your feelings matter, bottom line.

Good luck! You can do it![/quote]

And how did things fair for you when you moved out?  Bet those were some lean times.  You say things like "you go girl OP" like this is the next generation women's suffrage movement.  You also place an emphasis on OP's happiness over the overall wellness of the family.  How about when OP's kids need their daddy to throw a baseball or just be the male figure around the house?  OP should focus on solving the issues and try again to have DH see the value of preserving the marriage.  I feel so horrible being the jerk and trying to say that OP's happiness is not as important as preserving a family unit but that's life and children need to parents.  Unless their is physical abuse or drug/alcohol issues I would do whatever is necessary to make the union work.  [/quote]

One person can't do it alone, and it sounds like he's not willing to do what it takes. Good luck, OP. [/quote]

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