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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you have a lot of specific ideas about how the children should be raised. If you disagree with all of your wife's choice you need to step up, stay home, negotiate, whatever it takes. 
I'll add the obligatory phrase for this type of post, with one slight change. 
Typical DCUM prince. [/quote]

This is basically the issue.

When I was younger and talking to one of my buddies who divorced at a young age, he mentioned he learned how it was important to marry someone with the same background as you.  Not necessarily in terms of demographics.  But in terms of family background, religion, financial background, etc.

And I think it basically comes down to that.  Where we just have a different set of values.

So I find myself repeating what my buddy told nowadays whenever talking about relationships.

I would also maybe add that depending where you are in life, that if you're not married in five years, then it's not meant to be and cut your losses and move on.

Also forgot to respond to an earlier post.  My wife did have us go to premarital counseling but I think she went in with the idea that I'd change.  But the fact is there is nothing wrong with me.  As there is nothing wrong with her.  Just different types of people with different values.

And again just to reiterate. [b] I don't want to give the idea that my wife is a bad mom, even though I used to tell her this.[/b]  We did have those issues but she's a lot better now. [b] I'm just not the type of guy that forgets things.[/b]

Also for those who might be in relationships with their opposites.  I'm not saying that those relationships won't work.  As they say, love will perservere.  Just my own situation.

And don't believe it if you don't want to but that's what happened with our first kid.  With the first kid, I kept on telling her as long as she keeps trying the baby would have enough to eat with the colostrum.  But she refused.  [b]It was my fault too because she did want to give him a bottle but I kept on insisting on trying to breast feed. [/b] If you don't try, the milk won't come in and like I mentioned in my previous post I was a little bit too diehard about the benefits of breastmilk.  But after a while the baby became unresponsive and had to go back to the hospital.

With the second kid, we almost immediately went to the bottle to make sure the same thing didn't happen but she was also more receptive and proactive in trying to breastfeed the baby.  The labor was a lot shorter as well and maybe didn't take as big of a toll on her body.[/quote]

Uhhhhhh, wow. You are really something else. If my husband did this, he would not be my husband anymore.[/quote]

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