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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And you couldn't feed the baby a bottle of formula?[/quote]

This. Yes OP, you put too much emphasis on breast feeding here and your child went to NICU apparently just so you could prove a point.
I'm very sympathetic to the rest of your plight, but this incident was ridiculous.

Initially you said your wife does all of the 'physical things' for the kids- what does that mean? If she does ALL of the physical things, could that be why she is exhausted? Or do you mean you both do the 'physical' care for the kids and she is completely absent emotionally?[/quote]

Not OP... but I think parents can do all the physical caring for the kids, like feeding, bathing, etc.. but not the emotional caring, like taking time out and spending one/one quality time, talking, playing.  Think of it this way, kids in orphanages get physically taken care of (mostly), but not necessarily emotionally because the parental bond isn't there, and also of course, the workers have too many kids to take care of.

I think most kids don't care if you have the best dinner, clean clothes, etc... but they do care about a parent being emotionally available to them.  Not saying as parents we shouldn't clean their clothes or have nutritious dinners, but to a child, the emotional part of parenting is what they value most so long as their basic physical needs are met, too.  My kids don't care if I serve them a vegetable with dinner every night (I do), but they do care if I don't make the time to talk/listen to them. [/quote]

I 100% agree with you on all of this. I do think that when absolutely all of the physical care falls to one parent though, it may be harder for them to also be present emotionally than if the physical work is shared. That's why I was curious about whether or not all of the physical load was truly on her.[/quote]

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