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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is only semi-related, and I worry I may get crucified for this, but I don't see the big deal/worry about kids being in daycare a long time.

My wife and I both work and have commutes.  Our two kids go to full time daycare, and while they aren't the first ones there, we're often part of the parental rush in the last 15 minutes of the day.  I will fully admit, on telework days, I often take an hour at the end of the day to walk the dogs/watch a show and decompress before I go pick them up.  On days where I've taken personal vacation, I send them off to daycare to have a day to myself.

Maybe my opinion is off on this, but I think they're better for it.  They know who daddy is, we have a great time with each other, we play and watch cartoons and draw and do plenty on the weekend.  Part of the reason I don't feel too bad is that we made some small monetary sacrifices to put them in a nice academic based daycare center.  As a result, my daughter, four, and the older child, knows basic sign language (I know none) and may know more Spanish than I can remember from high school.  They have tons of friends their age that they play, interact, and socialize with.  They do science experiments, learn basic math, etc.  They bring home tons of artwork.  They have a playground.  Frankly, they're probably doing better than they would if they were home with me or my wife all day.

I don't mean to make it sound like I want the daycare to handle my kids for me, it's not like that, but it's a great place for them, they still love us and play with us at night and on the weekends, and I don't think my parent-child relationship is suffering for it.  I guess I'm not sure why parents are looked down upon for having careers and commutes and relying on these places to have some hand in raising their young ones.[/quote]

OP here.  No I agree with you on daycare.

Originally when my first kid was born I wanted my kid to have one on one attention.  At first hoping my wife would stay at home for a little bit longer, like a lot of my coworkers did and have issues getting their wives to go back to work, and we tried a nanny for a while but it didn't work out.

So while at first I didn't like the idea of daycare have been extremely happy with it.

The daycare isn't one of those expensive ones or Montessori ones (which I originally wanted).  Part of the reason why my wife picked it was for the price.

But it's been great.  Just the daily interaction with the other kids makes it worth it. And the daycare provider tries to make it a learning environment too.  So it's amazing to see the things he picked up, which I know he probably wouldn't have gotten at home.

With my first kid, I used to do something similar.  Where I'd go home first and have half an hour to myself.  Although a large part of it was heating up dinner.   With two, it's just easier to pick them both up and go straight home.  So don't have that personal time to myself anymore, but probably could if I tried.[/quote]

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