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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hon, he's not a bully.  Three year olds lack empathy, impulse control, and social skills.  He's learning, and you are helping him learn.  Throw away shame and help him do better next week.[/quote]

This is what I was trying to think of how to articulate, thank you PP.

OP, you are an attentive, concerned parent and you should be applauded for recognizing the problem and getting to work on it. I would seriously hesitate to label a 3 year old a "bully". They don't have the verbal skills to articulate, are still in the "me me me" phase developmentally, both which are totally normal[/quote]

All of the above-- refine your home discipline measures so that you react more calmly. It's important to model good empathy and frustration control. I'm not saying that to judge- it's just that some kids are more sensitive to raised voices and adult frustration. My son acts out when DH and I show even a hint of tension. It makes him anxious- we didn't realize it until we traced his meltdowns to our interactions. [/quote]

Thank you, I definitely think he is a sensitive kid in general, and I wouldn't be surprised if we could trace certain behaviors to timing of my and DHs negative interactions, too, like you describe. When I got home I mentioned this all to DH and said think about it, sometimes our fuses are just too short, we need to work on it. He agrees so we're off to a good start I guess!

Oy, parenting.[/quote]

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