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[quote=Elektra][quote=Anonymous][quote=Elektra][quote=Anonymous][quote=Elektra]Well, it's slang so it's not that easy to find a reliable definition. Here is one from the slang dictionary if anyone is interested:

a person who dates more than one person at a time, usually just for sex or other perks. Will typically do anything to have sex with someone. Carries a heavy negative connotation. Usually used to describe males, but could be used to describe females who act in this manner. Often pronounced "playa".[/quote]

you are in an open relationship correct? with more than one person and while it might not be based primarily on sex I don't think you'd be hanging around if sex was off the table? Also, comments to the effect that you had to walk away from relationships before it got too crazy seem, IMO, to bolster the notion that you are more of a player than you let on. Not that there is anything wrong with that. [/quote]

I'm not sure how much to say about my personal life but I fall more on the polyamorous end of the spectrum, meaning "many loves," so my orientation is not toward meaningless sex. I would not consider a relationship which did not include sex, a romantic relationship. It would become a friendship and I would stick around if there were good reasons to continue the friendship. I think everyone has walked away from a relationship before it got ugly. At least I hope so.

In some ways I wish I was a player but I am not. [/quote]

I see the player as being particularly unempathetic. Almost a "neonarcissist" - not clinical narcissism, but far along that spectrum. Women or men are conquests and nothing more. The aftermath of the relationship to the other person are irrelevant. The player justifies this because he or she never promised anything. To the other person, however, the promises were plentiful, but always indirect.[b] Players have to be extremely smart, because the core of playing is misdirection for as long as it suits the player's needs.[/b] [/quote]

That is true and that is why women should learn to be smarter than they are. If you know the games, and you see the warning signs, you have no one to blame but yourself when you end up discarded. Sadly, not all women are so savvy about this stuff. Also, some of the smarter ones seem to have an emotional death wish. [/quote]

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