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[quote=Anonymous]Sometimes I wish that posters would indicate whether they have a special needs child or not.  The truth is that ADHD kids don't respond as well to classic reward incentives and punishments.  I can take all my ADHD kid's toys away, cancel play dates, whatever, and he's like "Okay."  It really just punishes me, because it takes away the constructive outlets for his energy.  (Also, with ADHD kids, playdates are sort of like home work ... they really need that sort of one-on-one peer interaction to work on their social skills.  So I do cancel them when I'm mad, then kick myself later because I think it ultimately has little positive effect and a lot of negative effect.)  
That said, it might work to have him somehow work to help pay for the things he broke -- "Well, we need to buy a new humidifier now, and that costs $20, so I'll need you to vacuum all the rooms to pay for that."  If you can get him to do it, it's sort of win-win, because you've: (1) Made your point; (2) Got him to expend some energy; and (3) got your floors vacuumed.   If he refuses, you're back in the pointless punishment loop (a loop that I run around 10x a day...).
I also agree with all the suggestions to: (1) get a box of old electronics from good will or wherever; (2) put all breakables away; (3) have a discussion about rules and consequences.    I'd also suggest trying to keep an eye out for triggers.  Is he doing things like this while he's watching TV or reading, for instance?  My kid will chew through his clothes while reading or watching TV.  I don't think he notices he's doing it.  So I try to remember to give him gum at those times.  If he's twisting charger cords while watching TV or doing his homework, he could some therapy putty to twist instead.  
Good luck.  [/quote]

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