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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've got a mix of this at home. Four boys in my house (if you count my DH). I feel like its a house of toddlers...and my kids are all in middle and high school!!
My hours are great kids and super laid back-not at all problematic or hyper. However, they are just, like, rough. My oldest boy is a football player and he's huge...and I swear that human kind has not yet created things that withstand his wrath. His bed frame is even now broken just from his size (he's not fat just really huge, 6 foot 4 and all heavy muscle).

When my boys walk around the house everything shakes. Walking down steps sounds like an avalanche. They don't just put a plate in the dishwasher--they smash it into the dishwasher. It's like living with four incredible hulks. Or four Lenny's from Of Mice and Men.

At this point I've kind of taken the stance that it's just stuff. Yeah it's annoying and it bums me out but it's just stuff. Things that I really want safe I keep away from the general areas of where the family spends the most amount of time. I continue to make buying purchases (furniture, dishes) as if I had a houseful of toddlers.

Side note OP: my youngest son was one of those take apart-ers. Oh my gosh he drove me insane when he was around 6-8. Everything in my house was taken apart and put back together. Today he is a super bright math science kid who spends his free time doing surgery online.  Read "Snowball" (bio of warren buffet) he talks about how he made his parents insane doing the same thing. You'll at least get a laugh.

Not saying not to set boundaries and let your kid go crazy, just saying now that I am into the years when my kids are all older (one heading to college)...looking back I realize that sometimes you don't need to go all time-out and reward chart crazy over every single thing. It really is a balance of giving your kid boundaries but being able to chill out about the small stuff. Figurines break. A mouse is cheap. It's okay to just not worry about it. Plenty of stuff that's much bigger to worry about. And bottom line, boys are rough--and not just when they are little!! I call my 45 year old husband "The Crusher".   :)

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Why do we always excuse boys for being "rough"?  Can't they learn modify their behavior appropriately?  Girls and women certainly do.  We modify and modify and modify until we no longer know who we are.  Meanwhile, males are just forgiven... "boys will be boys" and all that.  I'm not just talking about smashing stuff.

It's really weird. [/quote]

I dunno. I don't think my boys do anything intentionally, they are just rougher than a girl might be. Realistically, I think boys and girls genetically are different. I can't see a girl doing many of the things my boys do. Are what they are. Don't really stress about it and don't want to spend time focusing on it, not a big deal to me. As long as they treat others well, they are respectful, good citizens, good humans... Don't really care if they stomp down the stairs. 
My mom on the other hand- she goes crazy. She comes over and is constantly yelling at the boys that they sound like elephants. :)[/quote]

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