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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As with the snow driving ex my ex makes questionable safety decisions with our child. Think definite blizzard driving or placing toddler in recalled recreational vehicle only 2 examples - there is more. I am powerless to stop this but is there anything I can put in our agreement that if our child is injury or killed in his care he would still have to pay support? I would have it go to a non-profit for child abuse or a legal pro se help office etc... Not to me
But I want him on notice that it is no financial benefit to him if our child is hurt.[/quote]

OP, seriously, you need to see a therapist.  No, there is no way to write this language into your support agreement.  If he is negligent and your child is killed, he could face criminal negligence charges.

If you have examples of serious risk of endangerment, you can call Child Protective Services or petition the court to allow him to have only supervised visitation.  But the two examples you cite are not at all at the level of risk that an agency will entertain.[/quote]

There are more examples. He's already had 1 child. Accidentally die. So again I ask anything? [/quote]

Thank you. I don't think that is possible in our jurisdiction. It sounds like there is no language to put him on notice.  I think my family and I can impress upon him the potential ramifications if this child is in anyway injured. I just wish there was away to put it to paper because I think that would scare him off entirely.
Everybody believes the other woman is crazy . After seeing him in action if she is crazy he made her that way.
Thank you all for your input.

[b]Do you think he killed the child so he wouldn't have to pay child support?  Was he sad that the child died?[/b]

Otherwise, I don't see how your reasoning will work.  I understand that it must be scary to send your child off for visitation with someone you don't trust, but what you're implying here goes beyond "careless". [/quote]

Yes. No to the second question. Ambivalent at the death. Still is. But bought a new car not soon after.[/quote]

NP here.  Wait a sec.  To be clear, you think he killed the child to avoid paying child support?  Because elsewhere you said he didn't even notice the child left the house.  That is certainly careless, maybe even reckless depending on the circumstances, but if you're suggesting he intentionally allowed a child to walk into a swimming pool and drown, with the goal of avoiding child support payments, that is a different ballgame.  It's a different UNIVERSE.  So which is it?[/quote]

Yes. His reckless behavior lead to the death. But he wasn't too concerned. Because it was a burden he no longer had. So not criminally responsible but I am not focused on putting him in jail. I just don't want our child to be next. He got away with an accident once. [/quote]

You're still saying inconsistent things.  In your opinion, was it an accident or was it intentional?  Those are opposites, and mutually exclusive.  It can't be both.[/quote]

I think the OP is being consistent and clear. OP: your best option seems to be giving up support in exchange for full custody. Is that possible? That's what I'd do. Your ex doesn't sound well. If I were you, I'd be worried, too.[/quote][/quote]

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